Good morning sir/madam. I got married in 2006 statutorily hoping to enjoy my honeymoon as I married as a virgin but was denied sex beginning from day 1 and didn’t experience honeymoon. I endured and worked around it. I couldn’t have sex with my wife without a condom and I must pay her before doing so. She could starve me for up to 3 months and counting and I did everything a good husband should do to make a wife happy. Bought her an SUV and sponsored her for her postgraduate studies. But she made the marriage a living hell for me by starving me of sex and food, not washing my clothes, abandoning our dying son in the hospital emergency unit for me to care for, she asked me to hand over all property documents to her and and vacate the house I built with my money and ordered me never to come back again to the house. I was almost kidnapped and was shot by the kidnappers and my wife never showed any form of sympathy when I called her on phone telling her what happened and never asked me about it when I came home wished till date since 2015, indicating she wished I had died. She doesn’t allow me sleep on the same bed with her. I bought washing machine to be washing my clothes since she doesn’t wash wash same and she damaged it after few days. She never allowed me to travel to my village and also tried to destroy my business by making me have issues with my clients which made me lose millions of naira. She vowed never to ever say sorry for anything no matter what happens. The list continues. In November 2017 she took ill which made me spend all my money and couldn’t feed my kids or pay school fees any longer, I called her mum to come and take care of her but she refused. Then on 1st January 2018 I took her back with the kids to her parents and provided for their upkeep. We agreed for the kids to start school over there for the mean time and they said I should send money to register them in school which I did but they ate the money and the kids were not enrolled in school. On discovering that, I went to pick up the kids to enroll them in school but never asked for the money I had provided for that. They refused me to carry my children. The father said he will go to court and claim my properties unless I go with her daughter even when I’ve not told him am divorcing her daughter, he went and carried knife to kill me but was dissuaded by people, now after about a year and 7months he’s still threatening to go to court and claim my properties to her daughter. My question is should I allow him to first go to court, even though I wish to apply for divorce based on irreconcilable differences and threat to life, or should I be the petitioner for the dissolution. The kids are under my custody and back to school. Can I go ahead and file for divorce cuz I can’t live with her again? Thanks.
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